My 22 year old daughter moved from our small town in Wisconsin to San Francisco last April. She is a guitar player and a singer with a lot of talent. So, she is living in SF working in a coffee shop, and playing at open mike events, writing songs and looking for her purpose.
Apparently, a few weeks ago, she went into a terrible funk, and her roommate called about it. She had connected up with a drug dealer, and had taken Heroin and Meth once with him, we later found out.
I flew to SF the day after I found out, to find her defensive and protective of her right to choose her life style and protective of her “love” for this “fun to talk to” drug dealer.
Her mother had called her and torn her a new….
which only resulted in her refusing to talk to mom.
I showed her love, and gradually found that she had been bored and despaired of making her music dream come true, and wanted exciting experience, which is why she violated her own principles.
What can I do, what do I say, besides kidnapping her and dragging her back to Wisconsin, which I was ready to do, which may have been bad.
I approached her first by objectively looking at the studies showing the damage drugs do to the brain, a lot of it irreversible, and to the deforming effect on babies in case she would ever have one. And we looked at the behavior of drug dealers long term.
” If you want that life then you can continue your relationship with the drug dealer, and it is likely that eventually you will be turning tricks to make money for him. But if you think the fun you had now with him is worth it, then though I want to stop you, it is your choice.”
I learned this type of communication from a wise old man, who did this with his children with success, in getting them to think sensibly.
Then I started talking about how talented she was that that I had been taking a class for success in our life purpose.
I prayed with her every day I was there.
She was receptive, and I suggested she write a DMP, which she did, and I must say her first draft was better than mine. I adjusted a blueprint for her, and she liked it. She is now starting on the process. I encouraged her to watch Marks videos, and I am doing a sub class with her at this point. If anyone is inclined to email encouragement to her, let me know.
The last day I was there I helped her write a text to the Drug Dealer, breaking it off.
I might add that I also communicated with him directly on my own….
You can imagine what a serious reality check this is for me. And I am thankful that I had the Mark J. material to show her, to give her positive direction in life. I intend to stay in frequent interaction with her and teach her through the exercises and tools. Please pray that will bring satisfaction and fulfillment for her. The concept is true that when you teach something, you get a much better grasp yourself.
The devil goes about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.
Perfect love casts out fear. And causes the devil to flee.
January 1, 2016 at 11:08 pm
Well done and congratulations! It is admirable how you supported your grown-up child in this hard moment. Bravo for practising all we have learnt together in such a beautiful way.
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January 2, 2016 at 7:09 am
You handled the situation greatly. It is a tough situation to be in. Keep the positive contact going and encouragement of making dreams a reality.
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January 2, 2016 at 6:36 pm
I do not feel like being entitled to write her an email to tell her off ! I can only witness something which happened to me today. First let me encourage you to carry on and feel proud of yourself.
I’ve never ended up where your daughter has, I don’t even smoke !
My message is as follow : I worked hard through my life and got very good results for the compagny I was working for but every time I was about to harvest the fruits of this work for me, everything collapsed ! Trust me, I worked hard on myself too to find out what was wrong with me !
I made some improvements but globaly talking everything was remaining the same.
Since I discover the MKMMA, it’s the first time I have so many/great improvements within months. Today I came across a situation which made me feel bad, my old blue print was heavily talking to me ! In the past something like this would take me hours or a couple of days to get through. Guess what, within an hour everything was back to normal. As I am writing this, I still feel really strange about it. It could be just by chance that this thing happened : Yes, it could ! However, I disagree with this reading and I’am tellingl you why. Over the past few weeks/months, I noticed some little changes at first, then some stuff bigger, some attitudes toward me which I am not use to, also…
Today, It can’t just be a matter of luck, too much clues are leading in the same direction !
I think your daughter should really work on her DMP and her relationship with music. My purpose is to let her know she might, right now, following a wrong path ! She might needs to remember why she’s in love with music and change some of her habits to get more success with her music ! She might needs to understand what she has not got in those 4 habits which lead to success….
I wish you, I wish her a happy new year.
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January 4, 2016 at 2:46 am
Wow, so glad your experience has been able to provide a positive aspect to this situation. So glad your daughter was receptive to it and I will pray she keeps learning it as well. Thank you for sharing this private matter with us so we can see how the Master Keys can really help in all situations.
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January 4, 2016 at 2:50 am
Roy – Thank you (over and over!) for being willing to share your Journey with all of us. You are an amazing example of what the power of Love and the wisdom in the Master Key Experience can accomplish! Our prayers are with you and your family always.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you guys – as we would be more than willing to communicate through you or directly if you think there would be value in doing so.
As always, we are honored and humbled to be able to share your Journey in all its manifestations!
Mahalo
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January 4, 2016 at 4:09 am
Before MKMMA I would probably have reacted as your wife did. Congratulations on being the objective observer, reaching out in love. After all, that is your child and you love her and want her to feel that you have a plan to help her. Our kids want us to care without trying to run their lives and I know it is difficult to see her in such a dangerous situation and think that it won’t lead down the same path. I am so very proud of you and your daughter.
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January 4, 2016 at 10:17 pm
Thanks for your comments. You hit it that they think they can run their own lives, and ultimately they do. They live with the decisions they make, but when their decisions are life threatening….its time to intervene.
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January 4, 2016 at 7:48 am
What a wonderful mother you are! Your ability to use all the tools we’ve been learning in MKMMA in this stressful time is absolutely to be aplauded – BRAVA. And Brava to your daughter for being receptive to new information and to her decision to break off her relationship with the drug dealer. I would be happy to share a tool with both of you – a tool from specialized kinesiology that can quickly relieve the effects of stress within about 30 seconds – if you would like to have this tool in your tool kit. It’s been used in rehab institutes and is incredibly simple and effective. Feel free to contact me at wendy.rmt.bg@icloud.com if you’d like the instructions for this technique – it would be my gift to a fellow MKMMA and her daughter – we’re all family here. Your in Gratitude, Light, Love & Support Always & All Ways wendyht
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January 4, 2016 at 10:15 pm
Actually, I am the “wonderful” father. 🙂
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January 5, 2016 at 7:24 pm
Roy, an incredible share of your journey with the Master Key Experience and putting your knowledge into action. Good thoughts coming your families way and especially to your very talented and receptive daughter-, you are all blessed to have each other. It’s about helping others help themselves-, truly a gift with ripple effects! Sincerely, Carol
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January 10, 2016 at 1:09 pm
Thanks for sharing this, Roy. I know this is a tough place to be, seeing what your daughter is going through. But, I believe you are doing a lot to help her!
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February 2, 2016 at 10:35 pm
I commend you Roy and thank you for being so transparent. It is not always easy to be the objective observer, especially when it comes to our children. Love casts out all fear. It is great how you focused in love instead of on the appearances. There was something deeper taking place. All the best to you and yours on this journey of true health. Mental, emotional and physical.
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